There is a fine line between negging a woman and completely insulting her.
Unfortunately, few guys know how to walk that line.
Too many guys try to act cool and nonchalant and put a woman down in the hopes that this will somehow magically, miraculously make the girl crazy about them. This method of attraction usually fails.
The idea behind “negging” or gently putting a woman down by teasing is to establish right off the bat that the guy does not see the girl as some princess up on a pedestal who is untouchable. The theory behind a “neg” is to bring that hot girl down to his level.
But most guys are woefully inadequate at doing this effectively.
They either outright insult the girl, or hurt her feelings, or piss her off.
The best advice is unless a guy knows exactly the right tone and perfect way to neg a woman without ticking her off, he’s better off avoiding this strategy.
Of course, a guy who is a pro at teasing and joking around stands a much better chance of successfully negging a girl.
And, the reality is, that it is much less important what is said, and more crucial how it is said. For instance, you can call someone a “jerk” if you are laughing and have a playful tone.
If you are angry and say it in a nasty manner, that is completely a different situation.
However, calling a woman a name like the b-word, has a much less chance of being taken as a joke even with laughing and a playful tone.
That is one reason why any “negging” done over the phone through texting can be extremely dangerous.
It is way too easy to step on the wrong side of the line and end up insulting the girl you are interested in.
In fact, because there is such a fine line between effectively negging a girl and flat-out insulting her, it is best to just avoid negging all together.
Of, if you insist on trying this method out, then start out very gently and see how what you say is perceived.
Here is an example of taking it to far to get her attention (from the Gawker):
Pick-Up Artist Admits Slashing Tires So He Could Hit on Female Drivers. I mean are you kidding me?!?
For instance, you might try teasing a girl you aren’t very interested in. That way if it all goes down the drain, it hasn’t happened with your dream girl.
And start small. You might tease her with a line you’ve practiced or heard someone else do effectively. Try, at least at first, not to do it off the cuff. That is where you are likely to get into the most trouble. Instead, use common negs you’ve heard about from other guys and make sure your situation warrants it.
Then, if it seemed successful — she laughed and smiled — then you could try going a bit further the next time you attempt it.
It can be a very effective strategy, not only to bring a hot girl down to your level regardless of which type of girl she is – which you can learn at this Pandoras Box System website, but also to show you have confidence and aren’t afraid of a little teasing.
Besides, teasing itself is a great way to flirt. Just make sure you know what you’re doing.